Tips Rumahtangga Romantik

1) “Nak panjang pendek-pendekkan, nak pendek panjang-panjangkan”.. bermaksud..kalau nak hubungan suami isteri tu berpanjangan..kalau gaduh ke apa ke..pendek-pendekkan rajuk..buangkan marah…cepat
berbaik semula..

2) Sekiranya berpeluang pergi ke tepian pantai, kebetulan pula pantai itu berhadapan matahari naik (tak sesuai tengok matahari terbenam-waktu maghrib), duduklah sambil memerhatikan matahari naik. Selepas pasangan anda duduk di tepi pantai itu, lorekkan bentuk hati di sekeliling tempat bakal anda duduk.

3) Selepas pasangan anda pulang dari kerja pasti dia keletihan. Tawarkan dia mandi air panas. Sekiranya tiada kolam sediakan satu kerusi dengan dua baldi air panas. Satu baldi untuk rendaman kaki, dan satu lagi untuk mandian. Lebih manis lagi jika diletakkan sedikit haruman aromatherapy dan anda yang memandikan pasangan anda. Seterusnya berilah peluang kepada dia untuk melelapkan mata dengan memberi ciuman hangat sebelum dia terlena. Pasangkan penghawa dingin atau kipas supaya dia selesa dalam lenanya. Sekiranya anak-anak ada bersama, bawalah mereka bermain di tempat lain.

4) Bercuti berdua……rasanya ramai yang tak gemar kalo tanpa anak-anak kan…..tapi kekadang ia dapat ‘refresh’ kembali hubungan suami isteri…

5) Beri bunga Very Happy . Beri bunga kat suami pun okay apa, kalau suami tak suka bunga gantikan dengan benda lain.

6) Lepak kat coffee house sambil berbual-bual…..rasanya saat ni paling seronok….macam first dating plak… Surprised!

7) Tinggalkan nota ringkas untuk isteri/suami. Lekat kat cermin solek atau depan pintu. Bolehlah tulis apa-apa jer tak semestinya I love you atau I miss you saja. Contohnya kalau suami pergi ke pasar dan tak nak bangunkan isteri bolehlah tinggalkan nota macam ni “Abang keluar kejap. Sayang jaga diri bebaik. I love you…”. Supaya bila isteri bangun tak ada lah tercari-cari suami sampai kat luar rumah tu.

8) Kalau jalan-jalan berdua pegang tangan macam orang tengah bercinta dan jangan lupa peluk pinggang. Cool!

9) Salah satu cara nak eratkan kasih sayang suami isteri ialah setiap hari pastikan kita peluk pasangan kita selama 30 saat (kalau lebih pun takpe) Very Happy

10) Setiap kali berdoa selepas solat, doakan DIERATKAN SEERAT-ERATNYA perhubungan kita dgn suami.. sebab biasanya kita berdoa agar keluarga bahagia je.

11) Semasa memasak/ bancuh air - kalimah YA WADUD (Yang Maha Pengasih) iaitu salah satu dari Asmaul Husna kita ucapkan berkali seakan-akan sebati dgn masakan kita tadi.

12) Ayat terakhir ALI IMRAN : lebih kurang gini.. YA AIYYUHALLAZI NA’AMANUSBIRU WASOBIRU WAROBITU WATTAQULLAHALA’ALLAKUM TUPSIRUN.. (Sila rujuk Al-Quran utk bacaan yg betul). Kita lafazkan acapkali sambil pejamkan mata dan bayangkan muka orang-orang yang kita sayang.. suami dan anak-anak. Atau..semasa mereka tido kita ucapkan dan hembus ke ubun-ubun mereka yang sedang nyenyak tu.

Through My Window

Don’t want much, I just want everything

Thought that I could, do almost anything

One step in front of the other

Thought that I could do it alone

In the blink of an eye, it's just another day

Telling me why, I'll find another way

Got this feeling, got me reeling

I can almost start believing

Now there's me and you

And we are not alone

You and me

We are together now

Through my window, I can see there's

More than you and more than me

Me and you

And we are not alone

Different view

We are together now

Through my window, I can see

Our wildest dreams could be so real

I see a spark, it starts a fire

Is this the one worth waiting for?

Thought that I could do it without you

Can’t exist like this anymore

Now there's me and you

And we are not alone

You and me

We are together now

Through my window, I can see there's

More than you and more than me

Now there’s me and you, you and me

We are not alone and we are together

Through my window I can see

Our wildest dreams could be so real

PMS

smlm da sakit perut + sakit pinggang n arini bertambah teruk.. pagi tadi bersiap nak g keja pun mmg rase x larat tp kuatkan semangat gak coz nak siapkan attendance report coz arini cut off.. tgh drive otw nak g ofis rase pinggang ni cam nak patah.. smpi ofis dekat kul 8.30am n wat sket attendance report.. muke mmg da pucat smpi ade sorang ofismate tegur cam sakit je.. dlm kul 9am da rase sakit giler smpi duduk pun da x leh.. g mintak approval bos nak g clinic.. pastu time jumpe doc, sy bgtau doc yg last year prnh wat surgery utk remove endometriosis tp sakit ni masih menyerang lg n arini  bertambah parah lak + sakit pinggang lg.. doc ckp mmg susah nak baik sakit ni.. doc advise g jumpe doc pakar endometriosis kat University Hospital, KL.. pastu doc bg MC utk arini & ubat utk kurangkan sakit.. ubat yg doc bg ni leh wat kite mamai n ngantuk.. yg x bestnye sy ni allergy sume jenis painkiller tu yg lg nyusahkan.. kalo sakit or demam kena ar tahan sendiri.. blk umah mkn ubat pastu trus tdo.. tengahari bangun mkn maggi & mkn ubat lg.. ubat yg doc bg ni mild je so sakit ni still x ilang2 lg.. org tua2 ckp pas bersalin insyaallah penyakit ni ilang.. leh caye ke? huhuhu.. hrp2 cepat la elok.. x larat ar nak tanggung sakit ni.. kwn2, tlg la doakan sy cepat sembuh ye.. :(

HAPPY PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR 2010

salam sume kwn2 yg disayangi..

hrp sume berada dlm keadaan yg sihat walafiat & bahagia di samping org yg tersayang.. da dekat 2 bln sy x update blog.. da berhabuk pun umah sy ni.. :) last skali sy log in pun pada bln november.. ni pun rase kekok lak nak menulis.. tiba2 je rase cam baru nak belajar blogging lak.. huhuhu

dlm masa hampir 2 bln ni mcm2 menda yg da berlaku.. best, x best, sedey, kelakar.. mcm2 ade.. yg pasti idup ni kena diteruskan.. kite yg corakkan idup kite & yg pasti idup sy penuh warna warni mcm kaler pelangi.. im enjoyin' every second of my life! yezzaaaa

rasenye masih lum terlambat lg nak wish HAPPY PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR to all my BELOVED FRENZ out there! semoga thn ni lbh baik dari thn2 yg lepas.. hopefully azam thn ni tercapai la ye & hrp2 kesihatan kite sume di tahap yg bagus.. AMIN

last but not least, i really LUV U GUYZ & GLADS DAT WE R FRENZ!

truly,
AYUMI

Aku Wanita Biasa

Aku Ini Wanita Biasa

Bisa Sakit Luka Karena Cinta
Dingin Sepi Kerap Menyapa

Air Mata Jatuh Lukisan Raga

Kadang ku Kuat Setegar Karang

Kadang ku Rapuh Lemah Liar Merana

Maafkan Aku Bila Hasratku Keliru

Sulut Gairah Jiwamu

Ku Yang Dosakan Cinta Kekasih

Maafkan Aku Bila Hasratku Keliru

Sulut Gairah Jiwamu

Ku Yang Dosakan Cinta Kekasih Hatiku

Kekasih Hatiku Maafkan Aku

Aku Wanita Biasa

Dingin Sepi Kerap Menyapa

Air Mata Jatuh Lukisan Raga

Kadang ku Kuat Setegar Karang

Kadang ku Rapuh Lemah Liar Merana

Maafkan Aku Bila Hasratku Keliru

Sulut Gairah Jiwamu

ku Yang Dosakan Cinta Kekasih

Maafkan Aku Bila Hasratku Keliru

Sulut Gairah Jiwamu

Ku Yang Dosakan Cinta Kekasih

Hatiku Maafkan Aku

6 Signs Your Guy Is Cheating

It’s every woman’s worst relationship fear — that her man is cheating. We’ve all heard the statistic: half of all men cheat. And some experts say that number is even closer to three quarters. Could it be happening to you? Aside from finding lipstick on his collar, a mysterious condom in his pocket or, yes, a phone number on a napkin (helpful hints but unlikely clichés!), there are some red flags to watch out for to tip you off that something fishy might be going on. The following are six signs that should raise your eyebrows:

1. He’s Acting Differently.
The most telltale sign of a cheating man is that he’s acting differently than the way he used to. If any of the signals below describe your guy’s usual actions, don’t freak out and immediately assume he’s having an affair; he’s probably just being his quirky self. What you should be suspicious of is new developments, says Barbara Feld, LCSW, a couple’s therapist at Park Avenue Relationship Consultants in New York City. She says you should ask yourself, “Is what’s happening different than normal? Is he showing a real change in behavior?” If he’s always been private, hasn’t ever had the highest sex drive, or often flakes out on plans, that’s just who he is. It’s when he starts to be that way and never was before that you should start asking questions.

2. He’s Avoiding You.
If your guy has suddenly started coming home much later, seems to be making excuses to be out of the house, starts going away with out you on the weekends, or just generally seems to be avoiding you, that’s a clear indication of trouble in your relationship. M. Gary Neuman, a licensed family counselor and the author of “The Truth About Cheating” found that 61 percent of cheating men said they started spending more time away from home. 55 percent of men about to cheat said the same thing. No matter how busy your guy may be, he should be making an effort to see you (because, hello – he loves you, right?). If he’s stopped making time for you, it’s not at all unreasonable to wonder if he’s making time for someone else.
3. You’re Having Less/Different Sex.
You might think that cheating men stop sleeping with their partners completely. But that’s not always the case. According to M. Gary Neuman, a little less than half of cheating men report having less sex with their partner. Others keep having sex so that they don’t raise suspicions – sneaky b------ s. So be alert to the amount of sex you’re having, but most of all, pay attention to the quality of the sex. Therapist Barbara Feld says sometimes when a guy is having an affair, the quantity of sex remains the same, but it’s the sex itself that changes. Maybe it used to be very romantic, and feel more like making love, and now it just feels like plain old sex.

4. His General Response to You Has Changed.
If a guy is having an affair, he may stop acting like the sweet, romantic man you fell in love with. Maybe he used to be very loving and kind towards you, but now he seems to get annoyed easily, be critical, or pick fights. If he’s consistently not being affectionate with you, don’t brush it off. Try to figure out why he’s different – and what could be distracting him, or making him feel guilty.

5. He Has Suddenly Become Very Private.
It’s just not normal for your guy to always go into a different room to answer calls, keep his cell phone in his car, or get really private about his bills (unless, of course, your man is a privacy freak and you knew that going in). But if he suddenly stops checking his e-mail in front of you, has turned the bathroom into a phone booth, and has redirected the bills to his office, it’s a fair guess than an affair is under way.

6. He is Unreliable
Quite simply, says Barbara Feld, “is he where he says he will be?” If he’s never where he says he’s going to be, it’s a certain sign he’s lying to you about something. Maybe he says he’ll be at the office, but you call and he’s not there. Or he says he’s with a friend, and that friend then calls looking for him. Everyone’s plans change sometimes, but if your guy is consistently not where he says he will be, it’s very possible it’s because he’s with another woman.

What to Do?
If your guy is showing any of these six signs, talk with him about it. Tell him things feel different than they used to, and you want to know what’s going on. “If he tells you everything is fine but you know it’s not, continue to pursue the issue,” says Barbara Feld. “You can also suggest, ‘let’s talk to someone together,’ and get couples therapy.”

Don’t turn a blind eye on your relationship. If things are bad, getting bad, or just feel strange, do something about it. Even if you guy isn’t having an affair, all the signs above could be signals that he’s about to. By addressing – and working with him to fix – whatever is going on in your relationship, you can prevent an affair from ever happening in the first place. If you’re noticing negative changes or problems in your relationship, address them now, while they’re still small. Maintaining a strong relationship with open communication is one of the best things you can do to ensure fidelity—both on his part, and on yours.

Hey Ladies!

Sudah kubilang jangan terlalu yakin

Mulut lelaki banyak juga tak jujur
Bila sakit hati wanita bisanya nangis

Sudah ku bilang jangan terlalu cinta
Kalau patah hati siapa mau nolong
Seperti langit dan matahari tak bersatu lagi

Hey ladies jangan mau di bilang lemah
Kita juga bisa menipu dan menduakan
Bila wanita sudah beraksi dunia hancur

Hey ladies sekarang cinta pakai otak
Jangan mau rugi hati dan juga rugi waktu
Bila dia merayumu ingat semuanya bohong

Memanglah tak semua lelaki busuk
Namun ladies tetaplah harus waspada
Semogalah kita semua akhirnya
Mendapatkan cinta yang tulus

Sudah kubilang jangan terlalu yakin
Mulut lelaki banyak juga tak jujur
Bila sakit hati wanita bisanya nangis

6 Tips For Love & Happiness

Certainly you have known someone who can brighten any room-- just by leaving! I'm afraid that we've ALL known someone like that (and I am afraid, at times, we've also BEEN that person.)
Years ago I was listening to Dennis Waitley--the "Psychology of Winning" guy--and he made this statement:  "I want to be the kind of person who makes others say, 'I like myself best when I'm with you.'"
I liked that idea.  I decided to become that kind of person, for my own happiness and for those around me. On some levels, I think I have even made some progress there. I want to share with you today some of the keys I have found helpful in becoming that "I Like Me Best" kind of person:


1.  "If you can't say anything nice..."
"...don't say anything at all."  If you want to really help people, give up trying to correct them.  Instead, compliment them on their strengths.  Will they still make mistakes that, to you, are obvious and need correcting?  Sure, but I have found that there is ALWAYS someone willing to tell others where they are failing, it is rare to find someone who will tell others where they are succeeding.


2.  Be Optimistic
Everyone likes to be around the "realistic optimist".  The "RO" is a person who can acknowledge that everything isn't always great, but that somehow we will all make it through. Knowing that trials and setbacks are both inevitable as well as temporary makes you an asset to the people around you.


3.  Be Funny (--even Silly!) 
When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried?  That was TOO LONG AGO.  Learn some jokes and tell them.  Watch a comedy on TV.  Go into Burger King and put on the cardboard crown.  You would be amazed how everyone around you will respond--and how much better you will feel.


4.  Give it away
Go ahead and be frugal when it comes to your bills, your clothes or whatever else you want to save money on--just be generous with PEOPLE stuff.  Give a 25% tip to the waitress who served you that great meal.  Give $5 to a kid you see at church.  Give away hugs like you get paid for each one.  Take someone out to lunch--TODAY.


5.  Live in the Moment
This is a tough self-actualization step for many people:  STOP WORRYING ABOUT TOMORROW.  Instead, live in today.  Live in right now.  Live as if tomorrow will worry about itself.  After all, what can we do tomorrow until tomorrow gets here?  All we can do is whatever is before us today.


6.  Love Deeply
This is the most important tip for happiness. 
Sure, you love your spouse, you love your kids.  But what about the people you work with?  What about your neighbors? If you love deeply I will guarantee you a couple things:  You will be disappointed and hurt, but you will ALSO find happiness from some people who will deeply love you back.  Trust me, it's worth it.
Someday I hope that you and I get to meet and know one another.  I have a feeling that I might be telling you, "I like me best when I'm with you."

Cinta Dalam Hati

mungkin ini memang jalan takdirku
mengagumi tanpa di cintai
tak mengapa bagiku asal kau pun bahagia
dengan hidupmu, dengan hidupmu

telah lama kupendam perasaan itu
menunggu hatimu menyambut diriku
tak mengapa bagiku cintaimu pun adalah
bahagia untukku, bahagia untukku

ku ingin kau tahu diriku di sini menanti dirimu
meski ku tunggu hingga ujung waktuku
dan berharap rasa ini kan abadi untuk selamanya
dan izinkan aku memeluk dirimu kali ini saja
tuk ucapkan selamat tinggal untuk selamanya
dan biarkan rasa ini bahagia untuk sekejap saja

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